To hold space requires that we set something up, (a thought, a trip, a class, a dream) and then sit with it. Although it can sometimes feel and look passive, holding space is charged with energy and activity. It is fueled by dreams and desires. It is at once sacred and frustrating.
Sometimes we must hold space for better times. We might be awaiting a diagnosis, waiting for a loved one to come to his or her senses, waiting for finances to improve, waiting for peace in our souls. Waiting. Waiting. Waiting. In these times, holding space can feel alienating, lonely, frightening. The strange thing is, this time is still sacred. What we do(or don't do!) as we hold space controls the outcome.- Not always the outcome of the situation, which is often beyond our control; but the outcome of our response.
For many years I was a runner. A silence, a pause, a sense that things weren't happening fast enough, and I was off like a shot. I would exhaust myself with efforts to divert the energy, thinking that if I worked hard enough at something I could control it. As I deepened my spiritual search and expanded my prayer life to include yoga and meditation, I grew to understand the value of the silence, the pause, the sense that things aren't happening fast enough. It is in that silence that we are able to connect with our true desires, our dreams, our hopes and our fears. It is in the pause that we can consider the options. It is in that little nugget of impatience, that desire for things to happen more quickly, that we remind ourselves that the anticipation of the trip is part of the journey.
We can hold space in our relationships, in our work, in our searching. When we allow room for quiet, space for doubt, time for prayer and meditation, we begin to expand. When we can comfortably hold space, we can begin the sacred work of healing ourselves-one breath, one minute, one day at a time. Ultimately, others notice us planning our trip. They see the light of our exictement and anticipation, and they begin to play with the idea of booking a vacation of their own. Whether you've been planning an exciting trip or are holding space for better times; may the space you hold today be exactly what you need.